SARAH IS the mother of seven children . She admits that the happiest moment for her, during her deliveries, was being handed her boy child.
"Year after year I kept having girls and I could see the disappointment in my husband's eyes. He never came right out and said he wanted a son, but I sensed he was desperate to get one".
She said she was scared he would go outside and produce a boy baby with another woman. She was well aware of his indiscretions.
"At one time I heard he got one of his many women pregnant and she had a boy baby. I became worried and decided to try again for the boy."
(This was now her fourth try). Again she had a girl baby. She felt something was terribly wrong with her as the man already had an son with another woman, so it could not be his fault.
She became miserable and difficult to live with, she started treating the girls badly, beating them for petty reasons, she would take her frustrations out on her daughters. During this period she began hating herself for her inadequacies and felt like abandoning her children.
She decided to make another try for the boy two years later. All the others were just a little over a year apart, this is how desperate she became.
The fifth time brought the boy. I cannot honestly describe the feeling I had when the boy was born, it felt like this was my first child. The other children never existed, this was my prince," she said.
Her husband was as elated, he went out and celebrated with his friends.
Of course the boy was never wrong for his mother, he was her love child, she said.
However, over the years of giving the boy everything he asked for and more, she saw how dutiful and dedicated her daughters were and her entire impression of the girls changed.
"I started accepting my daughters, I started showing them love." The relationship became better. Even though her son remains the apple of her eye, she is now able to tell him when he is wrong.
