JANINE BROWN, 31:
"It is very important. When I think about respect I think about listening to the other person and using kind words. One week after marriage I was damning my husband because he was raising his voice at me. Even now there is a problem because I do not think he listens to me. He has his own views about things and he does not want to listen to me. When it comes to time for sex -- I am not in the mood because there is something to be resolved.
"I have set up interviews with Family Life Ministries, but he felt I should go on my own because I had the problem. I cannot accept it. Nowadays, he keeps saying I look sad. He says that some of things he does he does in joke.
"I define respect as showing regard for another person's individuality. Even where there are faults, you should point them out in a kind way. You do not generalise about other people and feel that I should be that way, too."
JAMES FOURE, 35:
"Respect means giving space and yet being sensitive to whatever the other person might be going through. It does not involve questioning in a prying, distrustful way. Trusting the person's judgement is important. Respect their word that what that person says, they will do, they will do. No friendship will go far without this."
COURTNEY, 32:
"The lack of respect was a factor in the break up of my last relationship. I do not believe that she really respected me as a person. She was always belittling me."
MARIE, 30:
"I have basically taken a very cautious approach to men because of the respect factor. I spent many years watching my father treating my mother as dirt. I left home when he started to do it to me too.
"I think that remaining single is the best option as many men view wives as people to wash their clothes and do as they wish in bed and not persons with ambitions, hopes, dreams and feelings."
