Dear Pastor,
I pray that God will continue to bless you as you do His work. I am from Clarendon. I am thirty five years old. I read your column every week. I am married to a man who is the most vicious person I have ever met.
At first everything was alright until we got married. We lived together for one an a half years before we tied the knot. It was perfect or that was what I thought. Anyway, we went into a car business and this man took all the money from the business for himself. He told me things did not go well. I know he stole all that money.
About three years or more we went into another business in Jamaica. I put in three quarters of the money because I was earning more. He went to Jamaica to take care of the business. I heard a lot of rumours about him and women.
We had an argument over the telephone. Then I heard that he was saying that the business belongs to him and I don't have any money in it. He also said that he is supporting my children. He has never taken care of my children. I am their father and mother. I am taking care of them without their father's help. I can support them without anybody's help because I am working enough money to do so.
He is a liar and he cannot be trusted. I am just warning all the women and girls who sees a man from the United Kingdom and Canada, in Jamaica on vacation to beware of him. He is a wolf in sheep's clothing. I want you to use my correct name. I want everybody to know that this man is a liar. I have worked hard for what I have, so I am not going to sit and allow this man or anybody else to take anything away from my children. I do not love this man anymore.
For three and a half years I stayed in the marriage because I did not want to start over again, but after all his cheating and having a woman calling my house and saying that she thinks she is pregnant for him, then I know it is time for me to get out. I can write a book about my seven and half years living with this man. The relationship started on lies, but I leave him to God. God is not sleeping and God knows that I do not deserve this kind of treatment. I am turned off from all men because they cannot be trusted.
I heard that he has been saying that I am telephoning him and begging him to come back to me, but I have never done so. Why should I beg him to come back when he cannot even support his child? He is a disgrace to me. I would be better off without him. Right now I am going to the doctor to find out if he passed on any venereal disease to me. He has slept with many women and he continues to do so.
J.T., Brooklyn, New York
Dear J.T.,
Long distance relationships do not always work, especially if the couple are apart for many months or years. Of course, this was not just your problem with your husband.
You have alleged that you were in business with him and although you invested money you did not get any money from the profit the business generated. You have alleged that he stole the money. Why then did you invest more money in another business with him in Jamaica? Don't think that you should have been much more careful? Could it be that you were giving him another chance.?
You are saying that your husband cannot be trusted and no one should ever do business with him. If you have put money into the business he should not say that you have not done so. A man has to learn to be fair. Honest people prosper. Dishonest people may prosper for a while until the public finds them out. And when they are found out their business suffer greatly and many have had to pull down their shutters because nobody wants to do business with them.
I am sorry that your husband and you have not been able to resolve your problems. I hope you can prove that you have invested in the business. It would seem to me that you are willing to let him go his way. Therefore, I suggest that you retain a lawyer so that your interest may be protected. Take care of your children and please let me hear from you again.
Pastor
