Dear Pastor,
May God help you to continue doing your good work. I have a decision to make and I want you to help me to make it.
I am the mother of three daughters and it happens that I have a man and they are involved with him. Whenever I talk about it, they curse me. My first daughter has a son and it is for this man. I asked him about it and he cursed me and said I shouldn't ask him anything.
One night I went down to his house and I saw him with my second daughter and I went home. When she came home I hit her and she hit me back. I began to cry. My third daughter is pregnant for him. I cried and cried. I can't say anything about it.
People told me to leave him, but I can't. I love him too much. He likes to run around with many young girls in the area. I talked to him and he said I should leave him. Please help me to make my decision. There is more but I can't explain.
A.T., Kingston.
Dear A.T.,
I think you are a sick woman and your whole house. Your household has sunk to the deepest depth of depravity. Your so-called man and daughters are nasty.
Their minds are warped. You all are behaving as wild beasts and not like civilized people.
I am amazed that you would even write to ask me to help you to make up your mind. Shame on you. You should have put out this man from the very day you suspected that he was having a sexual relationship with your daughters. You shouldn't even have allowed it to get to the place where he got your first daughter pregnant. Now he is out of control. All three are involved with him. That man is a beast. You must leave him. How can you love such a man?
What is the problem? Is it that everybody is getting money from him, so you feel that you can't live without his money? The devil has blinded your eyes. May God remove the scales from your eyes and help you to see that you shouldn't stay with him. May God help your daughters to see that they have brought shame and disgrace upon themselves and you.
Pastor.
Rape victim seeks help with baby
Dear Pastor,
I was raped in April of last year. I became pregnant. I was planning to give up the baby for adoption, but the nurse told me that I had to keep the baby until he was six weeks old because they didn't have the space.
When the time came I couldn't give him up. I didn't have not even a pin for him. I had to beg clothes and food for us. I had to leave where I was living when the baby was two months old. I couldn't pay the rent. I had to beg to survive.
I went to live in the country with a friend of my relatives. Everything was fine until I got a job in Kingston. I had to take it because where I was living there were no jobs. Sometimes I had to beg drive to go to work, just to get something for my baby to eat.
My friend's husband started asking me for sex and because I didn't give in to his demand he told his wife that I would have to start paying bills in the house.
When I am finished buying pampers and soap for the baby I don't even have money leftover to buy food.
One night I came home and saw my things outside in the rain. I didn't know what to do or where to go. I don't want my baby to suffer. I just feel like ending it all, but I am afraid. I don't want to give him up. If there is anyone out there that can help me with some zinc or ply board I would be grateful. I don't know how much longer I can live like this. Please help me and pray for my son.
C.M.,
Dear C.M.,
I regret hearing that you were raped. You are not interested in giving up your baby for adoption.
I don't know if anybody will be willing to help you with zinc or ply board. I am wondering what you are going to do with ply board and zinc. Do you plan to lease a piece of land and put up a one bedroom house?
To me it would be better if you were able to find a senior citizen who is living alone and need someone to keep her company. I hope that by publishing this letter someone will offer help to you.
Pastor.
Pray about the matter and be faithful Pastor
Dear Pastor,
I have written to you before and I keep buying THE STAR but I have not seen it published.
I am living in the United States of America for the past 15 years. While visiting Jamaica I met this man who lives in Ocho Rios. He has a business place. He is very handsome. We get together whenever I am in Jamaica. He told me that he was married to his children's mother, but they are separated. I am not saying that he does not have women there, but I have never seen him with any when I am there. When I am there he is with me, so I need to ask you if you think this relationship will work.
We talk everyday. He is very nice, but I need your fatherly advice. I do not want to waste any time. He is the only man in my life. He told me that he has committed himself to me. Sometimes I wonder if he loves me or only wants what I have. Anywhere I want to go in Jamaica, he takes me. To be honest, I do love him. Is there anything I could ask him to do for me to see if he is sincere.
Although men nowadays are not that sincere to women, I am to him. I work very hard. When it is time for my vacation I come to Jamaica to enjoy it.
I am really confused. Sometimes I am here and he is there. I am looking for your fatherly advice. Keep up the good work you are doing. May God bless you.
K.D., Brooklyn, U.S.A.
Dear K.D.,
You love your homeland Jamaica and you love your Jamaican man. I don't know what will happen in the future. I can't tell you whether he will decide to marry you, but he has told you that he is committed to you. I hope that he will marry you. If you have doubts you should talk to him frankly about them.
You are somewhat suspicious of him. You have your doubts. Time will tell if this man is sincere. In the meantime, you have no reason to doubt him. Pray about the matter and continue to be faithful to him. Pastor.
