Dear Pastor,
I am a young girl in my early twenties. I have a boyfriend, but we are not living together. I am living in a different area. He has a baby mother living abroad. He doesn't know the child. He only sees her on photographs. He is in touch with her by telephone and letters and she also sends stuff for him twice for the year.
The matter is this: I want to go and live with him, but I am scared because his baby mother will come back to him in the future. He says she won't be coming back to live here. On the other hand, he doesn't have the convenience to accommodate me. Both of us are paying rent.
Whenever I want to go and visit him, it is a problem. He says his landlady is very inquisitive. The first time I went to visit him she asked him who I am and he told her I am his sister. He says I am living too far, so many times whenever I am expecting him to visit me he says he doesn't have any bus fare.
When we started dating each other, late last year, we used to go out regularly, but from February of this year we have not been out. For the past seven months I have not received as much as five hundred dollars from him and he told me he wants me to have a child for him. I told him I am not ready because if he is not supporting me financially, I do not see how he is going to take care of a child.
Where his mother is concerned, I told him I would love to meet her. She is living in rural Jamaica. He told me he would have to have money to go to visit her.
One day I asked him how much money he needed, he only shrugged his shoulders. I do not believe he is interested in introducing me to his mother. He said his mother loves his baby mother and she talks about her all the time.
T.C., St. Andrew.
Dear T.C.,
This young man is not interested in you. He believes that he has got what he wanted out of you. He is a liar and you should know by now that you cannot trust him. He is also a very mean man. He has given you so many excuses that should cause you to get the message that he is sending to you and that is he is not interested. Any man who wants to see the woman he loves would find bus fare or taxi fare to visit her.
Why can't you wake up? Why would you even consider going to shack up with this man? Don't tell me you do not have any ambition. You are in your early twenties. Go back to school. Tell this man to get lost. Prepare yourself for the future. You will get a good man, but right now it is better for you to go alone. Pastor
Landlords, beware of your tenants
Dear Pastor,
On a sad note I would like to let you know that the tenants (I wrote you about) have since removed from my premises. They did so one weekend when I was in the country and they have left owing me $10,500 which represents seven months in rental.
They have also removed the locks from my door. I would like to reiterate that landlords should be very careful when renting their homes to elderly couples. This couple has removed from my home and has gone to upset the life of another innocent landlord.
Landlords, again beware. It is better to keep your homes locked up than go through the stress which I have gone through in my life.
L.E., Kingston
Dear L.E.,
I do not understand why the lock from the door was removed. Anyway, if you believe that you have a case or that you have been treated unjustly, you may consider taking legal action against the couple.
Pastor
