Dear Pastor,
I love my girlfriend very much and if we are to get married, there is only one problem that is facing us. Her vagina used to be very tight, but now it is too slack to hold my penis. Her breasts have also dropped. We are both the same age, and I can assure you that she has never cheated on me. So I want to know why these things have happened. I am very concerned.
Is it because we have been having sex frequently and not exercising? Does having had an abortion has anything to do with the slacking of the vagina? What is the cause for the enormous expansion of her vagina? What can be done to tighten the vagina? What is the cause of the dropping of the breasts? What can be done to get them firm again?
J.J., Kingston
Dear J.J.,
I wish you had given your age. It would have been easier for me to determine some of the things that you are trying to say. Evidently, you and this young lady have been intimate friends for a long time, and both of you have been having sexual intercourse from that time. I am assuming that you took her virginity and when that happened you considered that she was very tight. Now that you have had sex many times together you have come to believe that her private part is too slack. It may very well be that you are wrong. Foolish men are always looking for women who are tight. That is why many rape young girls.
What in the world do you mean when you say that her vagina is too slack to hold your penis? It could very well be that the problem is not with the woman, but with you. You should not expect the woman to be exactly as when you met her as a virgin. However, if you really think that there is a problem, both of you should have yourselves checked out by your family doctor.
As women grow older, their breasts do not remain as firm as when they were very young. It would be totally impossible for your woman to be as firm as she was when you met her. However, plastic surgery can make a difference. So, if you want to waste money, you can pay big money to a plastic surgeon to work on your woman's breasts.
I think it is disgraceful for you to ask what is the cause for the "enormous expansion" of your girlfriend's vagina. Suppose she should describe your penis as peenie, weenie. Would you be happy about that? But it may very well be peenie, weenie. Several things may cause a woman's breasts to drop. Even jogging without wearing a brassiere can affect a woman's breasts. Gravity can pull the breasts down. But all these things can be discussed with your doctor.
Nothing you have said in your letter should prevent you from marrying this lady if you truly love her. Have your woman discuss with the doctor the type of exercises she may do to tighten her up. Sometimes after a woman has given birth she needs to do certain exercises. But that is not the problem you are facing with this woman. You feel that you should have a woman who will bawl the place down every time you have sex with her. To you, if she does not do that it is because she is too slack. You need to grow up. You lack knowledge.
Pastor
Threatened by village bully
Dear Pastor,
I am a teenager who has been ill-treated since early childhood. I am still receiving bad treatment.
There is a man in our little district who has consistently displayed badness to the youths of the community. I am his favourite drumstick. I have been to the police station on many occasions, but even the police themselves seem to be fearful of this maniac. He has numerous police records. He is a child molester. He carries on his antics and eventually escapes.
In December he threatened to kill me. I am sick and tired of this whole situation. He picks around me almost everyday. My relatives have been to the police station many times, but did not get any help.
What has happened to this country? It does not protect its citizens. I am beseeching you to help me.Please pray for me. I am fed up. I don't know what I will do next. Please see if you can talk to someone for me to see that this man gets what he deserves.
N., St. Ann
Dear N.,
I cannot send your letter on to the police because you did not give an address, neither did you mention the district. I know you are writing from St. Ann, but that is about it.
You gave the name of the one you allege to be the abuser, but how can I be sure that you are speaking the truth when I cannot even recognise your name? You scribbled something but I am not sure what it is. It is unfair to accuse anybody of committing a terrible offence if you are not prepared to give your address or some indication of where this person can be found.
It is also unfair to accuse the police for failing to give assistance if you are not willing to mention which police station you made the complaint. If you believe that you have not been fairly treated by the police, I would suggest that you write to the Police Complaints Depar-tment, 34 Duke Street, Kingston.
Pastor
