Dear Rory:I'm having an emotional crisis. I'm a 19-year-old girl in love with this really sweet guy, just two years older than I am. We have been together for just over a year now.
What is unique about Alexander is not his physical features or his good looks, but his character. The first time I met him I realised instantly that there was none like him. It is difficult to explain, but he treats me like a queen. What's also exceptional about this relationship is that although we have arguments we never stay angry at each other for too long, I guess we're still at our honeymoon stage.
The problem is he went to New York to spend two weeks with some relatives and those two weeks turned into two months. Though he calls regularly, I miss him very much. The worse part of this is he is only two minutes away from his ex-girlfriend (once the love of his life). He said he'll be back in April but I'm really not sure about that.
Rory, do you think he is fooling around with this girl? And do you think he'll ever come back to me? Please help me. I need some advice on what to do.
Yours truly, Melora
Dear Melora:
I must admit you sound really taken up with this guy. Your brief description of the relationship sounds like the ideal, something a lot of people could only wish for.
About a year ago I had a similar experience of doubt and hurt. However, I remembered a friend once said to me: "If you love a butterfly you'll kiss it and let it go. If it returns you'll know it is true to only you. If it doesn't, it just wasn't meant to be."
Melora, what I'm trying to say is that if you truly love Alexander you will trust him. Let me reassure you that what you are going through is just a test of your strength and the depth of your relationship. Once he cares for you he will not deceive or cheat and he will come back home where he belongs.
You sound like an intelligent, dedicated and sophisticated young woman. Try not to focus all your attention and frustration on your current love situation. I understand the uneasiness of your life. You will need to have a talk with him so you will understand each other even more. Explain to him your discomfort and in his caring nature, I'm sure he will explain and reassure you of his love. However for the time being try not to let these thoughts engulf you. Instead of being on your bed alone by the phone next to the wall, thinking and waiting for Alexander to call, take some time out to have some clean fun. On the other hand, if you are in school, focus all your energies on your books and even if you are not used to it, study in a group it helps to keep you focused.
Melora, let your dark clouds disappear I'm sure Mr. Right really cares. It is important for you to know true love stands the test of time. So if his feelings are true, at the count of two like déj vu he'll be back to you.
Rory Welsh
