Dear Pastor,
I am 40 years old. I am presently incarcerated. I was falsely accused of rape. Before I was accused I used to live with my baby mother at my home. Five years ago we broke up. She has three children for me. While I was in custody she used to visit me.
While visiting me she fell in love with a policeman, and she started a relationship with him. She then started to ignore me and she withdrew my money out of the bank.
Whenever my relatives sent money from abroad to pay lawyer fees, she took it and didn't pay the lawyer. I am also the owner of a car.
On one occasion I gave her the car to get a driver to run taxi for her to help the children and myself. She eventually fell in love with the driver and started an intimate relationship with him, and whenever I asked her for money she denied getting any from him.
I did not see her for one year while in prison. When I eventually saw her she told me she was sorry and she wanted me to give her another chance.
Because she is the mother of my children, I agreed to give her another chance. She lied to my mother and got money.
Another year passed before I saw her. I got to find out that she rented out my house. When I asked her about it, she said that she rented it but she has not told me how much she is collecting.
She does not send or bring anything for me unless I ask someone to contact her. No matter how many letters I write to her, she does not answer me.
I believe she is corresponding with another inmate in the same institution. I am fed up with her behaviour.
I have stopped writing her and I don't ask anybody to contact her. I am seeking your fatherly advice. I am also appealing to anyone who can assist me with a lawyer.
I am also looking for a female between the ages of 25 to 50 years old. I am an intelligent young man, clear complexion, weighs 175 pounds and I am a rastafarian.
Inmate, Kingston.
Dear Inmate,
I regret hearing that you are incarcerated for a crime that you say that you have not committed. I hope that very soon you will be out of prison.
You have alleged that you children's mother has been doing many things that you are not in favour of.
If indeed she is earning money from your house, she should be willing to say how much she is receiving per month. If she has withdrawn money from the bank, she should have also informed you. I am assuming that her name is on the account.
My dear, sir, don't fret. Sometimes a man goes through inward turmoil as a result of what others have done to him.
And in your case you cannot do a whole lot about it because you are incarcerated. But take courage, you are not going to be in prison forever. You may lose your woman to another man, but you still have life and it is well-known that where there is life there is hope.
If any female is willing to correspond with you, I will let you know.
Pastor
19-y-o virgin thinks about homosexuality
Dear Pastor,
I am a 19-year-old Christian guy who has found myself thinking a lot about homosexuality. I have never had sex before, which means I am a virgin. I have a friend and he is the one I started to have these feeling for.
I don't know if he was joking, but he said a lot of things. For example, he said I should come and give him a bath. He wants me to come over his house and spend the night. He said that he loves me. When he is around me he would stand in front of me naked as the day he was born.
Sometimes I think of taking my own life because I do not want to become attracted to a guy. I would like my first sexual experience to be with my wife. I pray about it night and day, but it is difficult for me to just forget about this boy. I dream of us engaging in sexual activity. This is like a nightmare. This guy is just sixteen years old.
Whenever he comes over or I go where he is, he always does things to push me more and more. The more I ask him to stop coming to my home, the more he comes. I asked him what he means by he loves me. He said, "Do you love me?" I told him that I love him as my little brother in Christ. He laughed.
I do not believe in homosexuality. The Lord condemns homosexuality, and to all these homosexuals out there, I am not writing my letter because I want to get into this disgusting behaviour. I would like to see a Christian psychologist to help me to get over these uncomfortable, distressing and disgusting feelings.
I am encouraging that seventeen year old guy who wrote to you about his homosexual feelings, to get help and not to accept any job from a homosexual businessman. He should know that it is wrong in the sight of the Almighty. Be careful of the game you are playing with the Almighty. He can cut you off at any time.
Please pray for me and my friend and that I will stop having these feelings for him and for him to change his behaviour before the time is too late.
G., Clarendon
Dear G.,
The only thing I can say is that you should part company with that young man who is always coming to your house and expressing how much he loves you and wants both of you to engage in homosexual activities.
You should not go to his house either. You know what the Bible says about homosexuality. You have said that it is wrong and you are quite correct.
You will receive in the mail the names and addresses of two Christian psychiatrists. Call either of them and make an appointment. I wish you well. May God help you to overcome your problem.
Pastor
Lying lover hurts her feelings
Dear Pastor,
I am a young girl trying to live a christian life.
In April last year I met a policeman and we fell in love with each other and started a relationship. This relationship grew. He invited me out and called me at least three times during the day and at nights.
Since November last year my life has been a living hell. Somebody who knew he was married called his wife and told her about us.
I didn't know that he was married. He only told me that he has two children. When I asked him about the woman, he told me she was trying to get him.
His wife called me to find out what my number was doing on her telephone bill. The policeman denied making these calls. He lied to his wife and lied to me.
I believed him until a neighbour who knew that his wife and him were having problems called me and told me what was happening. I told her everything.
I had to change my number to get rid of this liar. I received some information about his wife. I feel like taking revenge just to hurt him. I am deeply hurt. I am warning other women to look out for this policeman. He is a great liar.
I am looking forward to your reply.
Depressed, Kingston.
Dear Depressed,
Leave this man to God. Don't try to do anything to hurt him. By attempting to hurt him you may hurt yourself. So often good women get hurt.
I hope you don't condemn all policemen because of the bad experience you have had with one of them. I am sure in future you will be more careful before you get involved with any man.
Pastor.
