WOW! I can't believe the number of e-mails I got last week from angry women who were a little ticked off by my article 'Understanding Women'...even now, I am still reading some of the responses. Anyways, one male (us males have to stick together) agreed wholeheartedly with my points, and he suggested that I do an article about the hardship and 'headache' of being male in today's society.
Everyone is talking about 'males this...', and 'males are the cause of that'. It seems society is blaming us for everything these days. Men have always got a bum rap. They blame Adam for allowing Eve to coerce him into eating that fruit when it is actually women who are responsible for original sin. Society blames us for starting the wars, for social diseases, and the messed-up environment.
But I really don't care, I can take the flak, I'm a man, I can handle it.
Women are lucky, at least they have issues. We, men, we just got some PROBLEMS.
We die younger, we fight the wars, we work harder, and longer hours, we are more likely to commit suicide, and more susceptible to mental illnesses like schizophrenia, and we have to put up with dumb feminist jokes like: 'Male rhymes with fail'.
Further, we have to contend with double-talking feminists who want you to pay for dinner, the movie and the hotel afterwards, but still want to be treated as an equal the following day.
The women have it easy. Yes, women are raped, beaten up, abused, mistreated and abandoned by males who abscond from fatherhood, but at least they're alive. We're dropping like flies out there.
The odds are decidedly against us. I worry daily about crossing some brother who decides that he doesn't like me because I don't come from the same housing scheme as he does. You might not see it, but the streets of the ghetto are like an abattoir on a busy Saturday. Young able-bodied men are being force-fed into the great cannibalistic maw of society daily, and a man can only watch and hope that he isn't next.
Mothers sometimes socialise their sons to be failures in the off-the-cuff manner they rear them. They reign in their daughters but allow their sons to run wild, giving these young men the belief that the world belongs to them. These same young men get a reality check when they grow up and realise that the world owes them no favours, and then they crash.
Hard.
When it comes to health and check-ups, women have all sorts of fancy shiny instruments like in the gynaecologist's office to check their stuff. It's all very hi-tech in women's medicine with uterine fibroids being more treated with myloysis; and the assessment of abnormal Pap smears by colposcopy and the appropriate biopsy.
Men...what do we get? One finger up the kazoo to check for prostate cancer. How scientific a reading is that?
In society today, 'being a man' is a euphemism for lowering your head, playing the mule, and acting stupid. And of course, 'macho' is an acronym for a popular headline back through the ages: Male Attacks Crazed Herd of Ogres to impress female at local watering hole ..... Female Marries Head Ogre Day After His Funeral!.
And on top of that, women, whenever they get the chance to, attack our sexuality. Last week, some sadistic woman wrote a ridiculous article in the Flair saying that if a man hits a woman, he is a 'faggot'. One wonders just what sort of abuse she went through in childhood to have written drivel like that. But that's just an example of how women abuse us, they call us 'homos' just to hurt us. No one talks about psychological abuse millions of good men have suffered at the hands of women. Nobody really wants to know.
It is definitely a man's world, we get better press cue the Reggae Boyz, and the WI cricket team. We definitely seem like we're having more fun, aren't we? We're paid better (or so I keep hearing), we get to go to go-go clubs (death-traps where the roaches are huge and don't die from a single bullet wound), society allows us to be promiscuous (but then there's that HIV thing), we wear our 'beer-bellies' like badges (did someone say cirrhosis of the liver?).
Maybe, it's not our world after all.
God, I need a drink (and a cigarette).
It's hard being a man.
You can e-mail me at
cmillsy@yahoo.com
Men have problems too!
YOU NEED to stop taking it all out on the lady, you need to talk about the men and their problems too. But anyway you make me laugh, all what you said is not true. Keep up the good work.
Claudia: So. I see you like to play with fire. You should fit in very well in Afghanistan. Sorry what's your nationality again?
I take it that you are single and desperately looking. Women are versatile, they adapt to any situation, and you men have been very creative over the last few decades. Too bad you never adapted to the women changes. Change is constant. Keep up with it.
Tania: Obviously in your short 25 years on earth (you did say earth, right?) you have been exposed to some intense drama. (Hope it has no long-term psychological effects.) Where, indeed are all the good men? Obviously too busy writing articles about crazy, mixed-up, psycho broads. Take your head out of the books every once in a while and you're sure to meet som great gals.
Jewel: I see why you will never understand women or anybody for that matter! If you generalise like that, my brother, you're in for big trouble. I am a woman and the only thing in your article that I can identify with is that I am "attracted to excitement and living on the edge". There is a thing called individuality and it applies to everybody...yes...even 'women'. But I suppose you speak from experience...and you have lived five more years than me. But as your junior, let me give you some advice: think individuality. Don't package all women in the same basket when you do that it will confuse you especially if that women ends up doing something you didn't think up in your package'.
