By Lovern Hayes, Staff Reporter 
WHAT IS that special something that drives men wild and makes them not only notice you, but makes them want you with such unbridled desire that you feel powerful? Actually, that special 'something' is more than just one thing, it's more like 'some things' that some women know and employ, but things every woman should learn after all, they just might come in handy one day.
The fact of the matter is, you need to find your sexual power. Once you do...hmmm...the rest, as they say, is history. You don't believe me? Okay, look at this example.
Dana and Chris have been together for seven years, and have lived together since 1999. Their sex life has not waned in the least...that is to say they still have explosive sex at least four times a week, sometimes more. What's their secret? How has Dana managed to hold Chris's attention for so long? "Well, I don't wait for him to want me. When I want him, I make him want me I seduce him," Dana says mischievously.
Dana learned the art of seduction a long time ago, before she met Chris, and has put it to use whenever and wherever necessary. If you want to learn this art form, then read on. But first, please note that if you are going to be a first-rate, world-class tease, then you have to take sex seriously. Next, keep it slow and deliberate. Once you remember these two points, then you're ready to start the instruction.
So, here's how you can be sexy, mysterious and alluring as hell. Flair asked some successful seductresses to share with us their best bets for seduction.
SEDUCTION LESSON #1 Use your womanly wiles to the hilt
Tedisha, a 31-year-old front desk clerk says this works like a charm. Draw attention to your sultry eyes, pouty mouth or lovely smile.
When the object of your desire looks at you he should see the smouldering heat of your soul. Let your wild and heated thoughts be reflected in your eyes.
Keep your lips moist and looking kissable. You can do this by either occasionally licking your lips or using lip balm. You can also try puckering up every now and then, or relax your mouth muscles, parting your lips slightly thus creating a sexy pout.
SEDUCTION LESSON #2 Give
yourself a hand
Twenty-nine-year-old Monique testifies that this is her best strategy yet. Touch yourself ever so lightly. Self-touch is a great seduction technique because when you touch yourself in a personal way in front of a man, it plants the subliminal seed of him touching you in his mind.
The key to this particular form of sensual teasing is making it look natural and uncalculated. Touch yourself while he is talking...not too much though...a little goes a long way.
SEDUCTION LESSON #3 Touch him
Paulette has perfected this artform and strongly recommends it for you ladies. When trying to seduce a man, it is very important to touch him once or twice during the course of your conversation. Touch him on his arm or his hand. Keep your touch light, using only your fingertips. The touch should last about three seconds only any longer may seem nauseating and any shorter may seem accidental.
When you initiate gentle, intimate physical contact, you are letting a man know that it is okay for him to touch you too, in the same gentle manner.
SEDUCTION LESSON #4 A teasing send-off
If you and your man live together, it may be fun to send him off to work in the morning with a 'see you later' tease that gives him a sneak preview of things to come. For this though, much of its charm comes from the element of surprise. Here are a few useful suggestions:
How about a handful: This is a good one if you leave home before he does. You can come up behind him at the face basin as he brushes his teeth, or in front of the mirror as he prepares for work, and press yourself against his back. Then, cup his groin area in your hands and gently stroke and massage it until you start to feel a 'response'. That's when you make your exit with a "See you later honey."
Intense goodbye smooch: Your morning goodbye kiss does not have to be routine. Instead try this; when you come together to kiss, open your mouth and allow your tongue to find its way into his mouth. Kiss him deeply as you caress the back of his head. Do this for about thirty seconds and as the kiss draws to a close, give his earlobe a gentle love bite, then give his butt a gentle squeeze. Then, whisper in his ear, "See you later baby."
Hot flash: Tease him with a glimpse of some skin as you dress for work. Slowly pull up and adjust your skirt or pants. If you have buttons or zipper to do, then do them slowly, sensuously. Pretend to not know that he is watching.
SEDUCTION LESSON #5 Leave him sexy messages
Tekeisha's strategy of leaving hot, steamy messages is another strategy that guarantees success. There are various ways you can do this, but here are a few that are sure to do the trick:
1. Using lipstick, write him a saucy message on the bathroom mirror.
2. Send him teasing text messages letting him know what you want to do to or with him, or even what you are (not) wearing or doing to yourself.
3. Call him while he's at the office and tell him you're horny and thinking about him. Or that you would like him to steal you away for lunch. Or even that you forgot to put on panties that morning. These are just some suggestions but you can say anything you want.
SEDUCTION LESSON #6 Take it
all off
This is the coup de grace according to Dana it works every time. The sun has set. Your skilful teasing has worked its magic - he remembers the preview you gave him that morning, and has come home early and primed for action. You have him right where you want him - wanting you. What do you do now? Strip! That's right, take it all off. But do it with style...remember, you do not have to be a go-go to turn him on this way.
You may need some music to strip to and candles and whatever else you think may help your cause...it all depends on your style though. Just ask your man to relax and enjoy the show. Remember not only is this the culmination of all your careful planning, but this is also THE combo of all your seductive strategies.
The key thing to remember when doing your striptease, is to do it slowly. Slowly sway your hips in time with the music. Take your time with every button and zipper. Touch yourself sensuously. Trace the outline of your breasts, hips and torso. Give him heated looks that tell him your intention. Pause as you undress at the same time throw your discarded pieces of clothing on him. You can close your eyes sometimes but be sure to make eye contact occasionally. Again, pause as you undress.
