By Teino Evans, Staff ReporterI AM a tad bit worried now. In last week's Flair, there was a piece entitled 'Know when he's cheating', which highlighted 16 ways to spot a cheat. Fewer than half of those are even worth addressing.
I must say, despite a valiant attempt at pinning guys who cheat, those 16 ways could never prove beyond a doubt that the guy was in fact cheating. When a true player starts to show signs of cheating, it's because he wants to get caught or break up with the women.
First of all, which guy in his right mind would turn down sex with his partner just because he's getting some outside of the relationship? None. Why? It's simple: Guys who cheat don't do it because their partners no longer turn them on but, as some of my peers will agree, they cheat for variety. As the saying goes, "Variety is the spice of life."
Contrary to what women may think, men aren't really that stupid. Yes, men are sometimes caught in silly situations but I'd like to contend that that is a thing of the past. For example, there is no way that a guy is going to be out cheating on his woman and then come home smelling of perfume from the other woman's body. It's way too easy to 'hold a fresh' at a friend's place before going home. Furthermore, there is always that innocent line, "Honey, I was hugged by a friend or co-worker."
Yep, give them a pill.
The excuse of working late has also become passé that line is one of the oldest tricks in the book. Also, when guys get mysterious phone calls, they now play it cool instead of getting all 'bummy' and arousing suspicion.
Come on now, not because women are so much better at the game that you think it should be so easy to spot a cheat. Remember, we both have different ways of hiding stuff.
Guys can't be trusted? Neither can women. Guys are always being bashed for cheating because we are the ones always getting caught. 'A di livity dat still'. But on a serious note, women are far more deceptive and elusive in their covert operations. Frankly, there is no way a guy can be certain that his woman isn't cheating. You just can't be. I once overheard two women chatting, and according to one, "There are a lot of signs (to discover a cheating woman), but men just don't notice them."
Sixteen ways to tell when she's cheating
Well guys, I'm no expert in the field of spotting a cheating woman, but here are 16 ways I think you can spot a cheating woman. You know she's cheating when...
1. She doesn't call as much as she used to, then you know something is up.
2. You call or spend time with her and she seems distant. Her mind is probably on 'Joe'.
3. She starts spending less time with you (whether just hanging out or in the bedroom). It's time to start getting worried.
4. She starts to request things that you don't normally do in the bedroom. Better take a hint.
5. Things that didn't irritate her before become a big issue.
6. She is out with 'girlfriends' more than usual.
7. She can't account for where she was. This is a long-time give-away.
8. She's excessively sweet, for example, calling you honey, sweetheart and dear. You'd better be aware.
9. A woman stops her regular routine of asking about your day, sharing dinner and eating with you.
10. She suddenly develops a stutter when asked rhetorical questions.
11. Arguments arise and she doesn't seem to care.
12. You want to go out but she makes all kinds of excuses to get out of it.
13. Confronted, she sidesteps the issue.
14. She suddenly starts paying more attention to her appearance than usual.
15. She starts coming home with unusual gifts from 'friends'.
16. She has mood swings (outside what is normal for her), loses her appetite for sex (and she's no more stressed than usual), and constant complaints are attributed to her menstrual cycle. Guys you need to study the dates!
BONUS: Your girl buys lingerie and you've never seen her wear them. It probably means they weren't meant for you.
A friend of mine once told me that for every 10 women you meet, only three are worth it. For a woman, the chances are slimmer with only one good man coming along out of every 10. Ladies, I'll leave you to form your own conclusions.
