LAST WEEK British actor Jude Law made entertainment news when he publicly apologised to his fiancee Sienna Miller for cheating on her with his children's nanny.
To no one's surprise, subsequent reports say Miller, 23, is furious, distraught and has gone into hiding.
According to one news wire story:
"She can't face the world. The full implication of Jude's betrayal has now hit home. She's in bits. It's like there's been a death in the family."
As for the wedding, it's "completely and totally off," a source close to the actress tells Us Weekly.
A repentant Law, 32, reportedly had a sit-down with Miller earlier this week to do some major grovelling over his two-timing with diary-keeping nanny Daisy Wright, 26, whom he reportedly hooked up with while filming "All the King's Men" in New Orleans back in March.
A friend of the "Alfie" star maintains that he deeply regrets his actions.
IT WASN'T ME
Well, we know Jude could not have a drop of Jamaican blood. Local men, even when caught in the act, will never 'fess up. Cast your mind back to Shaggy's monster hit song, It wasn't me.
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed
Creeping with the girl next door
Picture this, we were both buck naked
Bangin' on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had
Given her an extra key
All this time she was standing there
She never took her eyes off me...
But she caught me on the counter (Wasn't me)
Saw me bangin' on the sofa (Wasn't me)
I even had her in the shower (Wasn't me)
She even caught me on camera (Wasn't me)
She saw the marks on my shoulder (Wasn't me)
Heard the words that I told her (Wasn't me)
Heard the scream get louder (Wasn't me)
Not content to let sleeping dogs lie, Flair asked a number of men if they would ever confess to their partners. Then we asked a number of women if they would want to know.
HE SAID...
Hell no, this is what you call self preservation. It's a literal case of 'cock mouth kill cock'.
Yes and no. The one time I slept with another woman, I eventually told my wife. It was the most painful thing ever to happen in our marriage and I realise now that telling her was selfish. I was looking for my atonement more than anything else. I was also looking for an open marriage about everything, everything, which was naive and unfair. So I decided that I would first talk to my counsellor and close friend first, and if things are really bad then we can decide what to confess. If I fell in love with someone else (it has never happened), then I think I would tell my wife. But I say that because I am so certain it will never happen.
I think its best not to confess as you are not able to live it down. Shaggy was right.
I wish people would get to the point where they understand that as humans we are going to be attracted to other people and have the desire to be with them, and given the right circumstance will sleep with someone else. This does not mean it's the end of the world, life goes on.
But heck, that is just my perspective. I let it be known that I might. That does not help as I am constantly being accused even when I don't, so I am in a no win situation.
Wouldn't tell in the first place, you want her to kill me.
In the first place I wouldn't cheat with my nanny. Too close to home and I wouldn't do it at my house.
No, because if I've already broken it off with the other girl, there would be no reason to hurt my girl. It wouldn't help.
I don't think it's wise, it's better if you tell God about it. Just tell Him you did something wrong and you're asking for forgiveness.
She the wife or girlfriend would never forget and that is one sore you can do without in a relationship.
Yes, I would apologise publicly because I'd be deeply sorry for the inconvenience it caused.
If you want to keep your girlfriend you'd need to apologise. The kids might tell and it's better not to be caught in a lie. Although it's just better not to be caught.
Yes, because between boyfriend and girlfriend there should be no secrets. Sometimes you can work it out.
Editor's note: This is from an Indian national
I'd have to be pushed into a tight situation where I'd be forced to spill my guts.
Probably, depending on how guilty I felt. If it's a one-off thing I wouldn't tell. If it was longer term then eventually my conscience would get the better of me.
If the relationship is over I probably wouldn't tell, that wouldn't make sense. But if it's going to continue and the affair is getting out of control then I'd have to tell the person I'm with. I would tell her because of love - to save the relationship.
Would you want to know?
SHE SAID...
No, because I am a realist who accepts the fact that Jamaican men are going to continue to cheat. I don't have the power to stop them from doing that, neither am I arrogant enough to think that I can control a man's attention forever. They are just made that way - with roving eyes - and they will act out a situation if they are tempted.
I wouldn't want to know. A monogamous man doesn't exist so we really need to stop pulling the wool over our eyes and burying our heads in the sand and accept the reality and then in that way we can move forward, become stronger women and stop playing victims.
As long as I'm being respected, don't tell me and don't put it in my face.
If he tells, you'll always be wondering and second-guessing his motives. I don't need that kind of stress.
No. To hell with him and whatever 'im carry on with. Keep it to himself and whoever he's cheating with.
I would say that I want to know, but deep down I really wouldn't want to know because it would hurt too much. And not publicly because then my friends and everybody would be up in my business. If I know I'd get too wild up and I'd be tempted to kill him.
Yes, I want to know because I do not want to live in a fool's paradise. A lot of things can happen to you when you're in a fool's paradise - diseases, AIDS etc. It makes you powerless.
Plus, not knowing would mean that somebody else is in control of my destiny. Knowing also means that you can consciously make decisions on whether to stay and work it out or kick him to the curb. When you are part of the decision making, you can take back your power and dignity.
Better that I don't know because I'd hate him for life. Don't tell me because even if I say I forgive you, every little thing would make me think he's cheating again and I might use it against him.
There would always be a level of doubt.
He should carefully do his research before he confesses to me.
Once I suspect I'd want to know and if he didn't confess, I'd ask him.
Lie he's (Jude Law) telling in the first place, nobody would apologise publicly in the first place.
Of course I'd want to know. I'd love the opportunity to whack him over the head. If I didn't know then I wouldn't get to do it.
A psychiatrist says...
Men are socially conditioned to cheating. It is widely accepted in societies that have a long history of dysfunction.
Cheating and extra marital relationships have been part of our society's historical reality. It is the basis on which society was established.
The white plantation owners had wives back home but they had sex with all the female slaves.
- Dr. Wendel Abel
An anthropologist says ...
Distinguished Fellow at the University of the West Indies and Anthropologist Edward Seaga says there is no scientific evidence that men are predisposed to cheating. However, their behaviour suggests some disposition to do so.
