Q Doc, I have met a really beautiful girl, and I think I am in love with her. I have been making plans for matrimony! Neither of us has been married, and we have no children. But there is one BIG problem in 'the sack,' doc. During the first few months we were together, everything went fine. I found her to be really sexy. The trouble started around three weeks ago, when I first succeeded in making her discharge. Doc, she is not like other women when this happens.She gives a really big shriek - which is OK by me. But then she kind of 'squirts' water all over the place. Is she passing urine, or what, doc? I have not discussed this problem with her. But if she has some really bad sickness, maybe we should not get married?
A. NO, she does not have a 'sickness.' And it is unlikely that she is passing urine when she climaxes.
You see, that fact is that a minority of ladies do 'squirt' a special sex fluid whenever time they discharge. Researchers in the U.S. have tested this fluid, and they claim that it comes from an area in front of the vagina that is something like the male prostate gland.
This phenomenon that you have observed in your girlfriend is called 'female ejaculation.' A lot of women are really embarrassed when it happens to them.
And your lady friend may well be feeling ashamed about it.
However, it is nothing to feel guilty or shameful about. It is just a natural 'happening' that occurs in some females - many of whom are very highly sexed.
It is not good that you two have not talked about this. You must discuss it with your girlfriend. Maybe she will want to go for a check-up with a doctor who - I am sure - will be able to reassure her that she is OK.
After that, I suggest that you take care to make love with a towel underneath her, so as to protect the bed. I wish you well in your plans for matrimony with someone who sounds like a really sexy lady.
Q Is it OK if the menses 'start up' again, a few years after the menopause, doc?
A No, it is NOT OK. Bleeding after the menopause could be a symptom of real DANGER. You must see a doc this week for a good internal check-up.
Q I have been really depressed since I had my baby, and I have been diagnosed as 'Post-Natal Depression.' A doc has been treating me with a drug called 'diazepam.' But now a midwife has told me that is the wrong treatment.
A Well, diazepam is a tranquilliser, and is not intended for treating depression. So maybe you should see some other doc, and get a next treatment.
Q I am a guy of 16, and I fear I may be homosexual. Should I try having sex with a girl to see if I enjoy it?
A No, that would not help. The best thing you can do is to take a really laid-back attitude and avoid rushing into sex with anybody male or female. Research shows that a lot of young guys go through a kind of 'gay' phase in their mid-teens but then grow out of it.
By the time you are 18 or 19, you may find that you are definitely straight.
Q I have been told that rectal sex cannot pass on the 'clap.' Is that true, doc?
A.No, it is foolishness. Rectal (anal) sex is quite a common cause of gonorrhoea ('the clap').
