Joy Crawford, Contributor
MANY WOMEN will say that this is a rhetorical question. Men behave in such a nonsensical fashion. They love you. They hate you. They love to hate you.
We all know that men are by nature hunters. They are constantly on the prowl and don't seem able to separate their wander-lust from any deep feelings such as there may be, and at the best of times, will have a dalliance or two. A man can love more than one woman at a time, or, have more than one sexual relationship at a time - though not on the same footing.
MOSTLY LUST
My really terrible male friends will readily admit that what they do has absolutely nothing to do with love. It is mostly lust. They simply cannot help themselves. They have the women literally eating out of their hands and, as a result, they can get away with whatever they want to do.
Very often, it all boils down to dollars and sense. A man will make a decision based on his pocket. Think of all the married men who have multiple relationships - a wife at home with whom he may or may not sleep, a girlfriend or two with whom he shares the limelight. They go to nightclubs, movies, parties, or take weekend trips away, while the unsuspecting wife stays at home and minds the children.
ARROGANT
These men will rationalise it by saying that "boys will be boys." Some men are arrogant to the point where they are rude with whomever may dare to challenge them - the wife because he feels she should be grateful for his body and the household comforts he gives her, and the girlfriend, because she would deign to expect that he should make a commitment. And both women, if they care about the man, and invariably do, put up with much solid matter in the hope that he will change.
We could say that that behaviour is stupid, and these men have no sense, especially when they are behaving in such a reckless and foolhardy fashion where both females know "what o'clock a strike."
Men will tell you that, to the contrary, they are smart, that they have sense and know what they are doing. They can have the best of both worlds. They can come and go as they please simply because we women, in an effort to be the ultimate victor, let them.
Yes, they have some sort of sense. The question is, in the end, will their double and sometimes triple lives allow them the happiness they crave or deserve or will they outplay their hand? I don't think men have the good sense to know what they want and that is why, when they truly lose it all, they are devastated.
Over to you men!
