I read your article about the threesomes and I find it interesting.

Many young women, and I say young because it's mostly the ones in their early 20s to late 30s, are engaging in threesomes with their male partners. The men are the ones asking their girlfriends for the threesomes. I have female friends who told me that their boyfriends are asking them to arrange threesomes. Some are up to it, yet others are not into it because of emotional feelings that would be left hanging.

In the man's mind, instead of going behind his girlfriend's back and seeing another woman (cheating), he is practically asking for consent, and also having the pleasure of the two women at the same time.

However, my reasons for writing are about my experiences in a threesome. I have done threesomes with my present partner (more than once) and the one before him (once).

I did a threesome the first time because it was a fantasy of my ex-boyfriend, and also mine. However, I think he had it in mind a long time because he found the girl the day after we talked about it and he planned the whole thing.

With my current boyfriend, I initiated it and he was ready and willing. I went in search of the girl, whom I met on a Jamaican dating site. She had her terms. She was not up for it unless she got me one on one first. I did it without my boyfriend knowing, then she decided a week later to go along with the threesome. It was the first time for him and now he keeps asking for it. I am not a jealous or insecure person; however, I don't like the feeling I got after doing it. My conscience just keeps telling me it's not right. I won't say I wouldn't do it again, but not very soon.

My advice to women is: Do not do a threesome if you know that you cannot manage seeing your man with another woman and do not make a fuss over it.