Shelly-Ann Thompson, Gleaner Writer

The role of a father in today's society needs to be renewed to assist in improving the country's values and attitudes. These sentiments and others lauding the effects of positive fathehood were echoed at the launch of Child Month held at the Scout Association of Jamaica in Kingston, earlier this month.

The National Child Month Committee, which oversees the organisation of the annual commemoration, has deemed this year's theme, 'Fathers, Your Children Need You!'

Several members of civil groups working with children and fathers cited the responsibilities of a father.

"Remember, any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad," said Dr. Pauline Mullings, chair of the committee.

Pointers For Fathers

Spend time with your children: If you always seem too busy for your children, they will feel neglected. Treasuring children often means sacrificing other things.

Discipline with love: All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits. Remind your children of the consequences of their actions and provide meaningful rewards for desirable behaviour.

Be a role model: A girl who spends time with a loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be treated with respect by other men, and what to look for in a husband. Fathers can teach sons what is important in life by demonstrating honesty, humility, and responsibility.

Eat together as a family: In addition to providing some structure in a busy day, it gives children the chance to talk about what they are doing and what to do. It is also a good time for fathers to listen and give advice.

Respect your children's mother: A father and mother who respect each other and let their children know it provide a secure environment for them. When children see their parents respecting each other, they are more likely to feel that they are also accepted and respected.

A father's job is never done: Even after children are grown and ready to leave home, they still look to their fathers for wisdom and advice. Whether it is continued schooling, a new job, or a wedding, fathers continue to play an essential part in the lives of their children as they grow.

Words to tell your child

'I love you!'

'Who else but my own!'

'That's my boy' or 'girl!'

'Great, you did that all by yourself!'

'You make me happy'

'I am so proud of you!'

Pointers courtesy of the Coalition for better Parenting and www.fatherhood.org/10ways.asp