The Editor, Sir:

Esther Tyson's comments on fathers not living up to their responsibilities only covers a quarter to half of the problems (Sunday, July 6). She outlines a number of reasons why fathers shirk or are not aware of their responsibilities.

I could add a few more reasons to the list. I am also aware of the distress that many children suffer emotionally, socially and economically because of not knowing or having a relationship with their father. Ms Tyson recommends putting the father's name on the birth certificate, but does not state how that would solve these problems.

I have heard the problem and solution presented a million times on TV and radio as well as in print, but and I am yet to hear what is the process of getting from problem to solution.

The effect of not having one's father's name on one's birthday certificate is something I am trying to understand because it has not been part of my life.

Estranged parents

My parents have been married for over 50 years and even though I am divorced, my children have a close relationship with their dad. Two of my best friends did not grow up in a two-parent home and are quite indifferent to their father.

I tell them that they are missing out on a great experience and, as adults, it may be OK for them to make a gesture to their estranged father. Deep down I know they want to experience that relationship.

I hope that this process will be explored so that this problem that so affect people's lives can be worked out to the benefit of all or at least most.

I am, etc.,

MAXINE BROWN-ROBERTS

maxinebrownroberts@yahoo.com