Daviot Kelly, Saff Reporter

Sex, being the mind-blowing experience it should be, elicits all types of reactions.

Some people can't wait to have it, so they start early while others are content to wait. But everybody, at some time, wants to do it. However, even sex can get boring, so to help keep the juices flowing, some couples (we're not talking group stuff here) resort to 'talking dirty' to each other.

For the uninitiated, dirty talk has nothing to do with telling your mate you want to break wind in their face. That's gross, not 'dirty'. It's all about saying stuff to get the partner, or yourself, hyped sometimes by using the 'bad words' for some body parts.

Rising to the occasion

For some guys, that's a great way to help them 'rise' to the occasion. Malcolm* says he doesn't need any help, but it makes things even nicer. He usually tells the women that they are 'keeping it tight' or sometimes calls them names he otherwise wouldn't use. What surprised him the most is that the women request it.

"One girl wanted me to call her all sorts of names. The first time I was really surprised but she was enjoying it," he explains. He admits that sometimes, afterwards, he feels a little ashamed of himself.

Amoy* admits she's a little on the freaky side behind closed doors. She revealed that she will ask her partner to 'give it to her hard' and 'hit her with his hammer' during intercourse. But after all the rhetoric, both agree that dirty talk is up to the couple because like most things, it will only really work if both parties are into it.

Tips

Be authentic. Good dirty talk is completely what you make it, and to do it well, you have to be yourself.

If you feel you won't be able to say it with a straight face, or if seeing him watch you speak makes you nervous, try whispering it breathlessly in his ear.

Include him in the conversation. Say things like, "Tell me how you want me to touch you".

You could also try ringing him up at work and talking dirty to him. It will be easier as it's not face to face.

Don't rush. The first time you talk dirty to your partner, don't overdo it. Talk a little and see how your partner responds.

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Tips from: www.femalefirst.co.uk and www.mamashealth.com.