Going to end up ...
I read your article, and I have to comment. I understand that the woman referred to in the article decided that she has to be career- oriented, it seems as if she has already made her career choice. So, what is really the main reason for her not wanting to get pregnant? It is not a case where she is just starting out her life and saying that a baby is out of the question for the time being. If she keeps putting off men who love her and want a child, she is going to, be miserable and sorry in the future when she has no one to leave her fortune to and no one to call her own. Will she be working even when she reaches retirement?
- Chrystal Brady a.k.a. Protina
They are just afraid
I believe that there has to be some deeper issue behind the reason that she doesn't want a baby. Most women who say they don't want children are only afraid. Having children doesn't take away from a successful career if the individual is able to prioritise. I don't want to pass judgement on this woman, all I would like to say is that children are gifts and she wouldn't have existed if her mother had chosen her lifestyle.
I would encourage this woman to think critically about her decision before waking up one day alone, only to find out that she is 60 years old and has no children, and her family and friends are too busy for her because they are living their own lives.
On the other hand, there are many women who breed up the place like rabbits and can't take of care of children. Most times they are vulnerable and are so desperate for attention that the moment anyone shows them one bit of attention they try to hold on to them. Many Jamaican men pressure women for children: "Mi a go wan mi youth," they say, and some women allow it. We often hear individuals talking about 'peer pressure'. But, what about baby pressure? Doesn't it exist too?
The woman in the article is admirable for the very fact that she didn't allow anyone to pressure her into doing something she is not ready for. My only advice is that she really thinks about it and makes sure that this is what she really wants.
It saddens my heart when I see a child hungry, dirty and just roaming the streets like a stray animal. Many children are left to care for themselves. I must commend the parents who actually take care of their children. Young men should stop pressuring women for children, especially when they cannot afford them.
Best regards.
- Najae
