The Soloist

When I started this column, I made a mental note not to use it to bash men, but after a remark made by someone I thought had above-average intelligence, recently, the gloves are off temporarily. It boggles my mind that there are some men who think that just because you are single, gainfully employed, comfortable in your own space and with your own material possessions and appear not to have a man, you are a lesbian.

Yes, this little schmuck with whom I happen to share the universe, actually wondered out loud whether I was a lesbian. "Because I cannot figure her out, what makes her tick," were his remarks to someone, when he thought I was not hearing.

A woman's worth

Now, I could have easily given him a telephone number of my very happy man from whom to get confirmation, or simply asked him if his wife had told him what a great time I gave her in bed. But I kept silent.

As enlightened as we think we are, a woman's worth is still defined by whether she has a man.

Well, my small-minded friend, here are a few home truths for you to ponder.

Just because a woman is not sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry does not make her a lesbian.

Just because a woman does not welcome the advances of every average-looking slob who makes contact with her peripheral vision does not make her a lesbian.

Desperate or bothered

Just because a woman goes out with her gal pals, or alone most of the time, does not make her a lesbian.

Just because she does not appear desperate or bothered by her singleness does not make her a lesbian.

Just because she openly declares her aversion to 'babymotherhood' and her biological clock does not work does not make her a lesbian.

Just because she chooses not to live with a man, or have him move in without a wedding ring, does not make her a lesbian.

But, give me a damn break, what's wrong with being a lesbian anyway?

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